Dealing with Failure

The purpose of the 7 Daily Nuggets is to teach you what you need to live a prosperous life; the things that you may not have learned at church, school, home or at work. 

Apply what you learn here and share these nuggets with others. We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give. Be a giver in a world of takers.

Enjoy today’s nuggets on how to deal with failure.

Failure is a pre-requisite for lasting success.

We all have to go through failure to develop the resilience, the tenacity that is needed to achieve success.

If you want to double your rate of success, double your rate of failure.

It is in failure that we find the seeds of success.

Look at failure as an event and not as a reflection of who you are.

Every single successful person took healthy doses of failure before savoring the taste of victory.

Before every victory comes a dream and plenty of struggles. True victory is fully earned. There is no such thing as instant success.

Here are 7 things to keep in mind every time you fail:

1.      Expect failure. Mentally prepare ahead of time. Mental toughness only comes from learning how to deal with failure.

2.      Find out why you failed. Learn from failure. Immediately take time to reflect, ponder on what lead to failure. Document the lessons so you are better prepared to deal with the next failure.

3.      Find humor failure. Failure plus time equals humor. Make the time as short as possible. Stories of failure provide the best teachable moments for you and others. Laughter is the best way to deal with the tension created by failure.

4.      Ignore how others view you. It is your life at stake, not theirs. The people who care and respect you will be there for you. The majority of so called friends will actually think less of you after failures when in reality they should learn from you.

5.      Stay focused. It is easy to fall in the trap of having a petty party. Get back on track as fast as possible. Make proper adjustments to reach your goals.

6.      Listen to your positive inner voice. The voice of failure will scream at you. Don’t listen to it. Only listen to your quiet positive inner voice.

7.      Re-frame the experience. Lessons are repeated until lessons are learned. As long as you are learning you are not failing; and getting closer to your victory.

He who has not failed will not experience success. 

Be a victor and not a victim of failure by turning rejection and failure into positive energy.

Be blessed and be a blessing to others!

Carlos Fontana, President of Phalanx

Co-author of the book Follow to Lead (The 7 Principles to Being a Great Follower)

Author of the book PRICELESS (Sixty-Six Simple Stories of Reflection, Love, and Legacy)